3 Reasons He Might Be Calling Becky with the Good Hair

There is a stigma that most men like Jay-Z cheat because it’s easy and they can get away with it, but is that the real reason men cheat? Let’s explore everything it takes to cheat and why he may even consider cheating in the first place. First, you have to seek out a woman of choice. If your man has any sense, he will not take a risk on losing his wife, career, and family. Especially over someone who doesn’t have just as much to lose; But I know most dumb ass men will risk it all for a Becky that isn’t even half of the woman they have at home. So they proceed to create a profile on the latest hook up App and spend time, looking for said, Becky. Next, you have to time it all just right where you know your woman will not be calling and looking for you. Unless something tragic happens in mid stroke and you have to pull out and rush off still wearing the condom. But nothing like that has occurred in a long time which means the likelihood is low, and you can proceed to schedule the hookup. Now all you need is a location. Some dudes can probably afford a quick hotel, motel or holiday inn; but most of the no good fuccbois will likely be smashing Becky in the back of Baby Momma’s Jeep Cherokee while other’s will be using they

momma’s car while she’s at work. Needless to say, these steps can often be relatively easy, and the freedom is there, so why not cheat?

Because love is a lie, and monogamy is an even bigger one: Love isn’t the lie, it’s your relationship. If you believe that love is a lie, then you should re-evaluate the reason you chose to be in a relationship anyway. It is your responsibility to ensure your intentions for love are aligned with your actions. You claim you want to be in a relationship, but all your mate see’s is a big exit sign that says, “I don’t want this, I don’t deserve this, please leave me alone.” This is because you didn’t know what you wanted when you decided to be in a relationship and moreover you didn’t know what it meant to be compatible with someone else. You wanted to be in love, and he met all of your requirements on the surface (good looking, good job, athletic, etc.) so you said ‘I do’ and hoped for the best. Monogamy, on the other

hand, is defined differently in every relationship. Some women believe porn is cheating while another doesn’t mind and may join in. Either way, cheating has little to do with love and monogamy being unrealistic and more to do with people choosing to wake up every day and live their life as a lie.

Because he is running away from the man, he is becoming and wants a constant reminder of the boy he always wants to be. When he decided to be with you, changed his Facebook status and erased all of his DMs where it used to go down, it shifted him from everything he knew about himself once upon a time. Loyalty to one woman puts a man against everything that he is; a hunter, a savage, a beast, ignoring these urges are more challenging than females would believe. Consider the times you used to bait your man with the short dress and tall heels, getting your hair done and smelling like a sweet flower on a fresh summer day and how he used to be so in heat for you; you could see the steam flowing from his crotch on date nights. Maybe the time you used to spend baiting and teasing him has shifted a bit due to your career, family expansion or other reasons you would like to excuse yourself for not doing your part in learning or making a conscious effort of doing, what makes your man feel loved.

Because he is frustrated being in a relationship with you, or at least he can use that as a good excuse to cheat on you. When people get angry, we like to make up reasons and excuses that justify our actions for placing all the blame on others instead of owning up to our shit. Cheaters can escape and replace this frustration with freedom, after that nut, you lay next to her and catch your breath; for a few moments, you are allowed to speak your mind as freely and honestly as you so choose and not be judged. Cheaters spend so much time of their life living a complete and total lie, that this level of freedom is invigorating.

I am not saying these are every man’s reasons for cheating. While it’s true cheaters make a conscious decision to step out on the relationship, the reasons for doing so could be endless. Maybe he is easily influenced by pop culture when the media tells stories about our favorite mainstream artists, like Jay-Z, allegedly cheating on Beyoncé and he believes it is something to strive for in his personal life. Maybe it’s a learned behavior, and he grew up around habitual cheaters, in that case the curse lives on in his life. Maybe he is a sick and twisted risk taker who likes to live every moment on the edge. Feeling the rush of stopping off for some quick Becky on his route home from work adds some excitement to his predictable home life because he knows you are watching the clock, waiting for him to miss his 15 minutes grace period. Maybe it adds, even more, excitement to that satin head bonnet; he has to endure, that you thought would meet both your needs to manage your hair, and his visual need to see you looking sexy because it came with rhinestones …GIRL BYE!

Whatever the reason your man decides to call Becky is not the issue; I am just providing an opinion of why some men might cheat. Whatever the reason may be, it could never justify the wrongful action to disregard the pain it causes women and families. Some of you can understand these explanations, and others will not accept it because you’re stuck being a victim in your perceived thoughts. That’s your choice, but living a life victimized only supports your need to deflect taking responsibility for your part in love. Put it like this, whether he refuses to grow up and be a man, your man, or whether it is your flawed relationship where you choose to play the blame game, you cannot control him or change him, you can only monitor and improve yourself, and your actions. Then the question becomes are you doing everything you are necessary to live your very best life? Do you really love yourself how you need to be loved and your partner how he needs to be loved? Do you love him deep down in that spot where he

needs it the most, that place that makes him uncomfortable because no one has ever massaged it quite right? If you were, then maybe he wouldn’t have any need for “Becky or her good hair.”